At times it is unbearably difficult for me to watch the news, read the paper and even listen to NPR when updates are given on the disastor in Haiti. I had to walk away from a waiting room's television when a story of the decision making process for removing limbs. Turned to a different radio station when a story I heard before, about doctors at hardware stores buying hack saws for surgery then cleaning wounds with vodka, was re-aired. And shed tears just from paging through this past week's Time magazine.
I do not want to pretend this tragedy does not exist... but I struggle with comprehending the full tragedy. It is incomprehensible to me on so many levels. So we donate to the Red Cross, learn what can be done and pray.
Much talk has centered around the many children who are now homeless and without family. The question of what can be done for these children is then discussed. An acquaintance told me that some children have been "airlifted" to Florida and that you can pay $150 to "buy" a child. I wasn't sure if this person shared the story with me to share the horror of it... or was suggesting an alternate adoption plan for my family. In any case, the conversations continue, both in the media and within our own personal circles.
I am sharing an article that was published earlier this week, discussing the ethical concerns with fast tracking these kids into new families. So a little education follows...
.Q. How many orphans are there in Haiti?
A. There were already about 380,000 orphaned children in Haiti before the earthquake. The Caribbean island, which has a population of about 10 million, may now have more than a million children without parents.
Q. Could any of them be evacuated to safety, or even to a better life abroad?
A. adoption agencies around the world have been flooded by enquiries from the public about adopting Haitian orphans. The Joint Council on International Children's Services (JCICS), a US advocacy organization, says it has received 150 enquiries about Haitian adoption in the past three days, compared with about 10 a month usually. Some children – who were already in the final stages of being adopted by overseas parents when the quake struck – have already been airlifted out of Haiti, and the US has eased restrictions as a humanitarian gesture, as have France and Canada.
A chartered Dutch plane will arrive in Haiti today to airlift 109 more children, most of whom have already been matched with families in the Netherlands but whose adoptions have now been fast-tracked. Meanwhile, 53 orphans have already been flown to Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Indiana-based Kids Alive International, which runs orphanages around the world, is expected to take 50 Haitian orphans to group homes in the Dominican Republic. The Catholic Church in Miami has asked the US government to allow thousands of orphaned Haitians to settle in America, in a scheme modeled on an initiative for Cuba, Operation Pedro Pan, in the Sixties. Under that scheme, 14,000 unaccompanied Cuban children, offspring of parents who opposed Fidel Castro's government, began new lives in the US.
Q. Is it ethical to relocate children from disaster zones?
A. There are honorable precedents such as the Kindertransport program during the Second World War, which saved 10,000 Jewish children by bringing them from Nazi Germany to Britain. But children's advocacy groups warn against mass airlifts of youngsters overseas in the wake of natural disasters. They cite the 2004 tsunami and the Kashmir earthquake in 2005, arguing that the clamor surrounding children created a legal and ethical free-for-all.
Given the chaotic state of communications in Haiti right now, a big fear is that some children may be shipped overseas without proper checks to see if any extended family members are alive.
As for the impact on small children, some experts believe foreign adoptions, or being taken into care in an unfamiliar environment, could be psychologically traumatic. SOS Children's Villages, the children's charity has issued a warning that uprooting children in such situations can be stressful and unsettling, and lead to long-term psychological problems for infants who are expected to grow up in an alien culture.
"When you see any child who has lost their family on the news, your natural instinct is to want to go and pick them up and cherish them," it said. "Sometimes international adoption is the right solution for a child, but far more often it is not."
Adoption expert Professor René Hoksbergen, of Utrecht University in the Netherlands, also warns that the hurried evacuation of children may send the wrong signal, encouraging people to assume that children in chaotic situations can be easily relocated. Some of the children evacuated from Cuba under Operation Pedro Pan ended up stranded in remote parts of the US, far from other Cubans, and have since spoken of how the experience scarred them.
Q. Is there a better way?
A. Charities argue that it is more important to register all children, trace any extended family members, and work to rebuild the country rather than removing youngsters from their homeland. Unicef says its priority is to ensure that children affected by the earthquake get the help they need. "While both airlifts and new adoptions are based on valid concerns and come from an obviously loving heart, neither option is considered viable by any credible child welfare organization," says the JCICS. "Bringing children into the US either by airlift or new adoption during a time of national emergency can open the door for fraud, abuse and trafficking."
Just a bit after our arrival back in Wisconsin, we hosted a very dear college friend in addition to her family and our mutual friends. You can see her daughter cautioning Mehandis in putting on her mom's shoes in the first pic. Then she gives up and "re-decorates" our tree. Mehandis than also gives up and then chooses to put on Maira's fancy furry boots. 
All smiles as ended our breakfast and headed off to our school and work days. Mehandis was very excited to share his ice cream sandwich birthday treats with his school friends. At the end of his school day, Mehandis gave us a birthday treat of being declared "Potty Trained" by his daycare... resulting in a significant tuition decrease. Michael and I were very thankful for that gift!
Mickey Mouse made a special appearance.
Followed by Thomas, Percy and James.
And a fan dancer.
